THE possessive people They are the ones who need and cannot conceive of another form of relationship in which others would always be at their side and do what they want. They only think about themselves, about their needs.in what they want, without thinking of others.
Their relationships are based on emotional dependence and domination. To do this, they look for people with personal or emotional needs that they can manipulate. When we are going through a difficult time or are in a vulnerable state, we are easily manipulated by these types of people.
What to do is to know Identify possessive people and knowing how they behave, repel their attempts at control and possession.
Characteristics of possessive people
- Controllers. They control everything and everyone and if they don’t have this feeling, they can’t relax. Unexpected changes scare them and generate stress.
- Manipulators. They frequently use emotional blackmail. They do this to attract, hook and trap others in order to have them at their disposal. To achieve their goals, they will not hesitate to use others to achieve them, using emotional manipulation.
- InstructionsTheir communication is based on command, demand, request or request.
- self-centered. They only look out for their own interests and have no empathy. They do not care about the feelings or will of others. That is why they are able to play with the emotions of others, without knowing how to put themselves in the place of others.
- rigid thinking. They see everything in black or white or you are with them or against them. They don’t understand the points in between.
- Egocentric. They only care about what is going on around them, if it has nothing to do with them, the subject does not exist directly.
- Low emotional intelligence. They haven’t developed it, so they get angry when someone close to them doesn’t think the same way. They don’t handle it well and usually respond with attacks.
- Feeling of superiority. They believe that they are superior to others, more intelligent, more decisive and from this false belief they exercise this control, with the idea that they do it to help those who need their help.
- Dangerous. They don’t know how to function in a natural and constructive way. They hide their insecurity with a firm and strong posture.
- Low self-esteem. Underneath this facade of arrogance, these are people who constantly compare themselves to others. They hide their flaws by highlighting those of others.
- Their relationships are based on dependency. They don’t want it, they need it. They look for vulnerable people to take advantage of. When she is submissive, the other becomes dependent and easy to dominate.
- Their fears dominate them. Their greatest fear is loneliness and not getting what they need. They cannot stand uncertainty and are unable to manage their fears.
- They don’t know how to deal with frustration. If things don’t go as planned, they can become violent, physically or emotionally. Being a way to get whatever they need.
