A new trend applies to Tikkok – or, rather, an old story in a new look: One day or day alone. In short videos, mainly heterosexual couples show wedding photos or pictures, and then screenshots of their first news. All this lie in the center of dramatic piano music and in a deep voice. She says: “Once or a day.”
The saying comes from Dwayne The Rock Johnson, who wanted to motivate something to do something from his own life. The tale of great love is told from the phrase about self -realization. However, this mainly reproduces stereotypical gender roles and heteronormative ideals. In some videos, this is also a form of romance, which can be toxic.
If you scroll the trend, you can see: many of the first posts are not just charming attempts to get to know each other, but throughout the attacking behavior. The woman was ordered to shave until the first date. Other men directly formulate the requirements of possession or sexual hints. And that the message “I will marry you” is a stranger seems rather creepy than romantic, some who take part in this trend obviously see in the other way.
Message: Even the most dubious adjustment can be the beginning of a “happy end” in the form of a marriage.
This shows how deep feminine is intertwined with heteronormative ideas of relations. Extensive messages are subsequently legalized later. According to the motto: he may have been arrogant, but it worked. The boundaries between the crossing the border of blur and flirting are dangerous.
Why did she answer?
It is not surprising that the counter -trend appeared. Women, in particular, react to the sound of Tikk: “I could not participate because I would never react to such attacking messages.”
This prospect is understandable and is also part of the problem. Instead of critically questioning why men write foreign women with the statements of the cross, the responsibility among women is again unloaded: why did she answer?
This becomes especially promising, where the so-called manosfer-free network of antifeminist online communities, which is committed to the “rights of men”. In some videos, representatives of the women’s manosfer who take part in this trend are criticized for exposing their partners.
Men who sent “too many news” will be demolished because it was bad to run after a woman. The ideology behind this is known: “Real People” should be dominant. Women should join this. So everything was the same.
Tender: a romanticized memory of the beginning of a relationship quickly becomes an amplifier for patriarchal models. May be The first day At some point, the beginning of a relationship at the eye level, without the dominance of men and sexist roles.
May be One day Then at some moment there are no more trends. This would be desirable, but until then much has to be done.
