They always told us that men have more sexual desire than women, and I know that this statement is denied from feminism, but is it true? Is there a scientific explanation?
Sexual desire is manifested from the fact that the set of systems is obedient, hormonal, immune … – They feel that there is a favorable climate to give a sexual answer, intimate contact. Therefore, the expression of desire is multifactorial, is the result of physiological factors and psychosocial aspects: self -esteem, stress, fatigue, expectations, couples, raising children, etc. There may be differences in the expression of this desire, which is not so clear whether this is a consequence of organic aspects or gender socialization.
The myth has spread that men have more sexual desire than women, but there is no scientific evidence that support it by 100%. There are no studies that indicate the only reason that responds to a more or less sexual desire. It does not even have high or low testosterone values is a key, since this hormone is a flattering sexual response, but this is not the only thing that affects.
There are men with a high level of testosterone who come to a consultation on sexual preparation with low desire, because they have problems with their partner or because they have difficulties with an erection. Fear of “not to execute” takes the desire of any erotic interaction.
From feminism, this statement was also rejected. The desire of men, as my sexologist Laura Kamara says, was the norm with which the desire of women was measured, causing inequality and difficulties in creating our “lover”. The norm, which was built on the basis of very noticeable gender roles, and unrealistic expectations regarding what is expected from them, and about them in a sexual meeting.
The desire of women is not encouraged, and if it was expressed or sought, it is socially punished (undoubtedly, some insults that women receive …). Nevertheless, they are rewarded, it is enhanced, even required. In sexual preparation consultations, we observe that some heterosexual men experience strong pressure when receiving sex. They suggest that they are always ready to have sex to make an initiative, namely what to do to satisfy your partner. The behavior, which, in addition, when they do not occur in this way, the couple can translate as a refusal, generating the climate of greater insecurity, which exacerbates the situation.
If they are “most desirable” from the couple, in the consultation, the difficult thing is that they understand that they cannot be angry, insist or blackmail their partners to have sex with them. The presence of a greater desire does not indicate that you like your partner more. That sexual relations with her are in love, and you want to be no longer used to convince her to have a relationship with you.
These relationships simply get the opposite of what they would like: they interfere with the desire of their partner, and they have less and less. The desire cannot be forced, and it is not so easy to activate as to press the button.
It would be great that we stopped perpetuating these beliefs and myths about how sexuality and the desire of living men and women, as if there is a general norm or ignition button. Sexuality is complex, it is unique in every person, the desire changes, and this goes beyond the genre with which you will identify.