THE envy It is considered one of the seven deadly sins according to Christian morality. It is acomplex and often destructive movement This can affect both the person who feels it and those around them. Understanding this emotion helps you better understand this person and encourage them to get out of this dynamic.
But on a daily basis, People often hide characteristics that are frowned upon.and the envious do it too, even if they exist characteristics and the means to identify them. They tend to be offended or angry when someone they know is successful or achieves something.
THE envious They are a constant source of conflict, because it is not even necessary to come into contact with them to clash. Distinguishing Selfish Behaviors people is important to avoid these conflicts or to ask them to change.
- Low self-esteem. This is associated with the continuous need to compare themselves to others and obtain gratification in order to feel worthwhile. Much of their self-esteem is based on aesthetics, which is why they compare themselves to appearance or other qualities based on appearance. They may even be threatened or attacked by the aesthetics of people they consider better than them without knowing them.
- Lack of personal satisfaction. This continual comparison of their accomplishments and possessions with others leads them to experience an internal dissatisfaction of wanting what others have, whether in terms of success, material possessions, relationships or skills.
- I despise others. To manage their feelings of envy, they seek to discredit the accomplishments of others through derogatory or critical comments and by feeling better about themselves. They tend to attribute the success of others to luck or the mediation of others. They seek to prevent anyone in their environment from standing out too much.
- Use of teasing. They can use any resource to humiliate the one they consider their rival. Many of their criticisms or negative comments have no substance, insinuating qualities that are not negative from a rational point of view, such as being vegetarian or not having a car.
- Discourage others. In the exciting projects of others, envious people try to dissuade them from trying, sowing doubts about the other person’s abilities.
- Demonstration of your achievements. Sometimes they try to show everyone their achievements to gain points in the competition they consider social life.
- Constant defensive attitude. Not only do they attack others, they expect others to do the same to them. So any comment can be interpreted as an attack. Like when you unintentionally exhibit a quality and are seen as a threat.
- forced congratulations. When they have to congratulate someone when they have accomplished something, they do so excessively. This difficulty in celebrating the success of others makes them irritated and uncomfortable.
- Desire for what others have. This emotion manifests itself as the desire to want what others have, whether it is their material possessions, their professional success, their romantic relationships… This desire can be so strong that it consumes your energy.
- Machiavellian vision of friendship. Envious people may see many of their friends as a means to enjoy a better image and be on the same level of popularity as “their rivals.” Instead of building a genuine or altruistic bond, they see them as a means to an end.
