1. The difference between aggression, bad relationships and frustrated expectations
In the case of Iñigo Errejón, there are two complaints that will be resolved in court and with the guarantees of the rule of law for the plaintiffs and the accused. The emphasis must be placed on improving protocols for the care of women victims of sexual assault or gender-based violence in their police, procedural and institutional journey, on the requirement to maintain purple points and other spaces of information and security, in sex education and surveillance so that companies and organizations have instruments for detection and action. But these days we’ve seen a mix of misdemeanor charges at the police station and reports of sexist, selfish, inconsiderate or unethical behavior, in addition to simple expectations of a frustrated romantic relationship and evaluations of sexual options in which there are domination games. and submission. Everything is not the same and should not be mixed, neither on the side of feminist movements, nor on the side of the media or public authorities. All bad relationships, no matter how much they have made us suffer, no matter how much they have damaged us, whether they are unpresentable or whether they are a cocoon, are not an attack. Feminism serves, and has served me, to acquire security and tools that allow us to express our expectations and desires in matters of intimacy and sex, love and personal, social and professional relationships. Feminism serves to learn to say no and reject what hurts us, humiliates us or simply does not bring us anything positive and to not continually become a victim of male narcissism. Furthermore, by transforming into aggression the fact that we are not treated as we expect or desire, we trivialize real aggression and run the risk of becoming the caricature of feminism that the far right makes: puritanical, reactionary, moralistic and incapable of taking responsibility for his actions. our actions and our choices. If we lack this decision-making ability, feminism helps us acquire it too.
